First of all, I just want to say how absolutely floored I am that so many of your read my thoughts on wellness in this post. The amount of thoughtful responses actually blew me away, and I can’t thank you all enough for participating in this discussion. Seriously though. Every single time a person comments on my post, it means they took the time out of their day to acknowledge something I created, and it really blows my mind!! When I started this blog, I figured that barely anyone would read it, much less my blogging role models like Jessie, Dana, Genevieve, Kathryn, and Julia! And then when Genevieve from Gratitude and Greens DM’ed me on Instagram with a photo of my mocha chip banana ice cream, I was floored that I blogger I admire so much actually made my recipe! Just the act of making something that I created is absolutely amazing to think about… it’s crazy how a single recipe can bring two people in two different countries together! And I hope my unbridled enthusiasm doesn’t come off as disingenous – it really does mean that much to me to see that someone has made my recipe. Genevieve, girl, you’re the best! 🙂
As much as I blog for the food/photography/fun, something I did not expect is the connections I’ve made so far within the amazing food blogging community. You know, at first when I started following blogs, they were just that – blogs. I’d look at the recipes, make the cookies, whatever. But then I started reaching out to people, starting to make new connections. And then people started reaching out to me, which is not something I expected to happen as soon as it did!
While I’m writing this, I’m realizing that it probably sounds like I don’t have a lot of self-confidence in what I’m doing in this space. And I suppose that’s probably true to some degree. Actually, now that I think about it… I guess I’m pretty bad at self-promoting. I feel so weird pinning any of my photos from here onto Pinterest; I wish I could add the addendum “I’m so terribly sorry to have inconvenienced you with this pin, I do hope you like it but I understand if this has all been a terrible imposition.” But actually.
I’m really not exaggerating at all, though. Even though I’ve had this blog for almost three months now, I’ve only given the URL to three people – my best friend from work, my cousin, and my boyfriend. Seriously. I haven’t even shown it to my mom! And to be honest, I couldn’t really tell you why. I think it all stems from the way I was raised – my parents strongly encouraged me to follow a very conventional life path, which I have done so far. I went to a Catholic high school, graduated from the same college both of my parents went to (which I did love), then immediately got a corporate job as soon as my education was finished. My degree was in business, which was definitely not my passion. I would have loved to be a communications major or music teaching major, but my parents warned me that those majors would not lead to jobs. And I am lucky to have a stable job with benefits, but I feel like my whole life I’ve been making choices that my parents have wanted me to make. And don’t get me wrong – I have amazing parents. They care about me so much, and all they’ve wanted is for me to have a good life, and not to face the hardships they’ve faced.
But now that I’m on my own, I’m realizing that ultimately, I’m the one who has to live with the choices I’ve made – influenced from my parents or not. I’m coming to learn that this is why it’s so important to accept responsibility for our own choices. I clearly know how hard it can be to break free from external forces or pressuring. But in the end, I made the final choice for everything I did. I could have been a comm major, even if my parents would have been disappointed in me. It’s always a trade-off. But I ultimately made that decision. And now that I’m older and bearing the full responsiblity of my choices on my own, I realize that I need to start choosing things for me and not anyone else. That will always be something I struggle with, but it’s a learning journey and I’m excited to start being my own person.
Do any of you ever struggle with self-doubt in similar situations? Or feel like you have to be a certain way because of what others want from you? I’d love to hear about your experiences!
- 2 Cups Rolled Oats
- ⅓ Cup Almond Slivers
- ¼ Cup Coconut Flakes
- ⅔ Cup Raspberries
- ¼ Cup Coconut Oil, melted
- 1 Tbs Maple Syrup
- Pinch Sea Salt
- Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.
- In a small bowl, mash ⅔ cup raspberries with a fork.
- In a larger bowl, combine dry ingredients (rolled oats, almond slivers, coconut flakes) and mix.
- Add in mashed raspberries, melted coconut oil, maple syrup, and sea salt and mix until dry ingredients are evenly coated.
- On a tray lined with parchment paper, bake granola in the oven for 10 minutes, stirring halfway.
- When granola is finished baking, let cool for a few minutes.
- Serve with almond yogurt or coyo and fresh berries. Enjoy!
While I’m mostly an indie/alternative gal, I grew up listening to the “oldies” with my mom. In fact, my favorite band of all time is The Beach Boys. Every now and again, I’ll break out my Fleetwood Mac, Peter Paul & Mary, Beatles, or Bread records (yes I actually have a record player). But recently, I’ve been digging some 70’s music, and been listening to the Bee Gees on repeat. This song is very special to me, and I hope you all like it!
Song of the Day:
To Love Somebody – The Bee Gees